As we grow older our circle of friends expands, shrinks and contorts. The reason for this is because we’re changing ourselves. As we grow we move to new environments, get exposed to new people and become more aware of the world.
Don’t get me wrong, you will have contact with your friends from the past. But as we become separated from each other, that’s when friendships and relationships are tested. How much are you willing to understand? Is this friendship really worth it? Are they missing me as much as I miss them? All these questions pop into our heads once in a while. Perhaps more often than you’d like.
The truth is, everyone will leave at some point. That’s scary, but it’s normal. Everyone is going to leave and go and leave and go. A lot of people will say that if they leave then you shouldn’t let them back in. Well, in some cases that’s right and in others it’s wrong.
See, people come and go because as much as you are growing as a person, so are they. It’s awesome to find friends that are going to be there all the time, but if you think about it, if you really care for someone wouldn’t you want them to grow and learn? Wouldn’t you want them to be the best person they can be? Sometimes they turn into a person that you don’t vibe with anymore and that’s okay. But don’t take it out on them. Never do that. Instead just know that you’ve had good times and a certain time in your lives. Be grateful for everyone that comes into your life and teaches you something about love and about yourself. Whether it is good experiences and especially the bad ones, cherish and learn from it all. The more you do this the more you grow into yourself.
Just as much as our friends are evolving, so are we. Though sometimes you might turn into someone that your old friends might not recognize, or want to hang out with anymore, none of it is your fault. That is, unless you don’t like what you are becoming, then that’s a whole different story.
To grow and change by yourself and for yourself is a beautiful thing. As much as we want to keep everyone in our lives and see the good, sometimes there are toxic relationships that need to be made and taken away in order for us to learn from them. That’s just life, and the world will keep turning and you will still be loved. By people, by places, by things that make you happy. Happiness is the be all and end all of everyone’s bucket list and goals. So whatever it is you do with yourself and your relationships, do it for your own happiness. Because that is what you deserve.
I’m sorry for being inactive for an extremely long time. I was caught up with life and things called responsibilities, so I had to place this aside for a moment. Anyways, I hope you enjoyed this blurb of mine. Until next time ~