Tea Talks: Solitude Isn’t Horrible

You know the saying, “No man is an island” ? In most of life that’s true. You need to have other people in your life in order for you to be able to cope with all the different emotions inside you. It’s absolutely crucial to be able to have people to talk to about your troubles and you accomplishments. People need people. That’s just the way we are.

Humans need interaction with others so that we don’t completely lose our marbles. However, being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re lonely. Yes, we all need someone to hug or laugh with at times, but not ALL the time.

I’ve found that most people, including myself, are in constant need of companionship. Perhaps, this is why people get so bummed out if they are single or none of their friends are free to hang out. Despite this, we are completely capable of doing things on our own.  I know it sounds odd, but most people (again including me) feel this uneasy feeling about being left alone.

But we shouldn’t.

It’s okay to go the mall alone if you want to go, it’s okay to sit in a coffee shop and read a book yourself, it’s okay to have lunch by yourself, it’s okay to be alone and no one will think differently of you if you are alone.

Half the anxiety from being alone is thinking that other people, complete strangers will see that you have no one to hang out with and that scares a lot of people.

But it’s fine to do things by yourself. If that’s what makes you comfortable then do it. If you’ve been at home for a while and you want some fresh air. If you want to go shopping by yourself. DO IT. Find happiness in your solitude. It is not a sign of weakness to be alone once in a while. There is nothing wrong with taking time to do the things that make you feel happy to be alive. So go ahead and do whatever makes you happy.

 

Sorry that this post is so short, I couldn’t think anything more to add to it. This topic has bothered me for awhile and the simple solution to it all is to just do you. I hope you liked it.

– Dani

 

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