This might sound completely cynical, which it is, and also very negative, which it might be, but nobody really cares. We live in a world where we feed off of each others likes, views, comments and follows as a form of validation. Like a little checkmark from our “friends” saying, yes that’s a good picture or yes I see you’re hanging out without me and it doesn’t make me feel left out at all. (Too petty? Perhaps. I’ll tell you when I’m over it. JK 🙂
I’ve noticed that social media allows us to connect with people in an enormous way. Both positive and negative. You can easily keep up with your favourite people that you might now personally or that you know through a screen. There’s also a new level of pettiness that is brought to these platforms. (As if we weren’t petty enough) Due to the fact that we can see what people are doing and posting as long as we have a wifi signal, that can cause some drama and hurt feelings.
But have they really hurt feelings? Why should you feel bad when you see that your friends are hanging out without you? It seems that when your friends are doing something together that you are not a part of it immediately means that you are singled out and not close enough to them. But maybe that’s true.
See we have different friends because of this, we as individuals like different things. It’s an interesting thing about humans, we can’t be framed into one specific label, even though that’s what we want. We want to be described in a few select words, like a character profile of your favourite tv show. It’s impossible because we take a liking towards different things, which is why we become friends with people that have common interests with. It’s why we hang out with different people, on different days, doing different things.
You can’t always expect your friends to constantly hang out with you because they can’t and they won’t. There’s no need to feel bad when your photo doesn’t get a lot of likes or if your friends are hanging out without you. If you like the photo, post it. If you can’t hang out with them, don’t force yourself into it.
There might be a lot of reasons for your friends to not invite you, maybe you don’t like what they’re doing. Or maybe you don’t like someone who is with them. Or maybe you just aren’t super close to the person yet. Or maybe you aren’t close anymore. Whatever the reason might be, there is not need to get hurt over something as minuscule as this. I’m not saying that your feelings are invalid, I’m saying that you have to focus on something else. That something being yourself.
I’m not going to spew out some tips and tricks about how you can become more productive, or become more in tune with who you really are. I can’t say that because I believe that it is different for everyone and for someone to tell you how to love yourself is wrong. The whole point of loving who you are is that it’s this wild, terrifying yet fulfilling journey that never ends. It’s called your life. Emphasis on YOUR LIFE. And sitting in your room, being bitter about nobody texting you, about nobody inviting you out, about a million other petty things you’re thinking is not really living a life is it?
You have to be okay with your solitude. In fact, you have to be happy with it. There are only a few times in the day where you can really just do your own thing, whatever that might be. Think in your own little bubble, open up and expand your horizons, from wherever you feel the most at ease. You don’t have to constantly upload what you’re doing, or who you’re with, even if that’s what we do now and it’s fun. Sometimes it’s okay to be sitting at home and just being in your own space, that doesn’t make you a bad friend, or antisocial or a loner. It just means that you can explore the universe inside of you. We wait our whole lives to discover who we are, why not start now?
Stop checking for notifications and start the adventure of you. It’s all yours, so enjoy it.
with warm fuzzies,